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Success Is Progressive

Many people are in haste about success. They want to achieve success overnight. They burden themselves with thoughts about being successful. They make themselves restless by their inordinate ambitions to become successful. They have sleepless and restless nights because of their immoderate ambitions for success. If they would understand the laws of success, they would know that their problems (or worries) are unwarranted.

This is one of the reasons success remains beyond the reach of many people, despite their worries about achieving it. Success is progressive. It is not achieved overnight. It is also not achieved suddenly or accidentally. One of the implications of this is that the journey to success is one step at a time. The expressions, “The journey of a thousand miles starts with a step” and “Rome was not built in a day” best describe the claim that success is progressive.

According to Henry David Thoreau, “Success usually comes to those who are too busy to be looking for it.” The most important thing in achieving success is neither thinking about success nor talking about success. It is also not being (inordinately) passionate about achieving success. Rather, it is doing what you ought to do to achieve success, when you ought to do it, where you ought to do it, and how you ought to do it.

You waste time thinking about success if you are not working towards achieving it. You may also be wasting time working towards success if you are ignorant of the right things to do to achieve it. Being inordinately ambitious for success could be a gateway to self-destruction. As a matter of fact, it is inimical to success for several reasons. Success is not a product of accident or chance. Rather, it is the product of deliberate and strategic efforts.

Observations and experiences show that success is often achieved after series of trials, failures, disappointments, mistakes, errors, etc. Many of the earliest efforts that are geared towards achieving success often culminate in failures. The failures, however, are often preparations for success, but only when the lessons they teach are learnt, understood and applied in the subsequent efforts in the pursuit of success. This is why failure is not final.

Being inordinately ambitious about success impoverishes you of the patience that is necessary for enduring, persevering, overcoming and learning from failures. This is why impatient people are not candidates for success. This is also why you should not be in a hurry in the journey to success. Not being patient enough to allow things work according to the dictates of time and law of natural order accounts for why many people fail in life.

When you are too fast, you may be running backwards. In addition, when you are too fast, you may also be heading towards doom and destruction. Consequently, always ensure that you are in the right direction before increasing your speed. Do not bother about success because it comes at the appointed time, as long as you do the right things at the right time, at the right place, and in the right way. This is a fundamental truism of life.

Being inordinately ambitious for success without doing the right things will get you to nowhere, even in a distant future. If you take care of the right things, the right results will take care of themselves. If you take care of the goals, success will take care of itself. If you take care of the seconds, the hours will take care of themselves. Success is progressive. If you focus your efforts on the right things, the right results will focus on you.

Success: A Challenge

It is a pity that many people are yet to come to terms with the fact that success is a challenge. This is why many people are unable to manage their success. Success is a challenge because it is tough and difficult. It also constitutes a challenge because it is demanding, taxing and testing. It is worthy of note that ‘challenge’ is not the same as ‘problem’. The difference between ‘challenge’ and ‘problem’ is attitude. While optimists use ‘challenge’ to describe difficult situations, pessimists use ‘problem’ to describe the same circumstances.

Success constitutes a challenge in two ways: becoming a success and remaining a success. Every individual is confronted by either of these challenges at every point in time. At every point in time, everyone is either striving to become a success or striving to sustains a success and remain a success. While successful people combat the challenge of sustaining and retaining their successes, failures and average people confront the challenge of achieving success. One of the reasons people who excel in life are celebrated is because neither of these challenges is easy.

According to the late reggae legend, Bob Marley, “Everyman thinks his burden is the heaviest”. This is why people who are still struggling to succeed in life believe that the challenge of becoming a success is more difficult than whatever challenge people who have succeeded are undergoing. But on the other hand, successful people are unhappy that most unsuccessful people do not realise that there are challenges in their world. They are unhappy that others have no sympathy for the burden of challenges their achievements place on their lives.

Indeed, achieving success is an uphill task. Channeling one’s effort into to the pursuit of success without accomplishing the set goal is unarguably very frustrating. Many people who are still struggling to achieve a meaningful life are convinced that achieving such goal is an uneasy task. Some of them believe that succeeding in life is the most difficult goal to accomplish. For some of them, after their consecutive efforts at achieving success continuously fail, they believe that they require the knowledge of some mysteries, not secrets, to accomplish success.

However, people who are successful consider their burden of challenge to be proportional to the heights they attain. Though becoming a success and remaining a success are challenges, the latter challenge is heavier than the former. If you watch the lives of wealthy people closely, for instance, you will observe that it is more difficult to maintain being rich than to become rich. This is also applicable to the lives of celebrities. This is why there are numerous people across the globe who failed after attaining very reputable positions in (different aspects) life.

Some people believe that they can remain at the top if anyone can assist them get there. This is very incorrect because it is more difficult to remain at the top than to get to the top. The implication of this is that if you can remain at the top if you were there, then you can get to the top. In other words, if you can remain being a success (if you were a success), then you can become a success. If it is more difficult to remain successful than to become successful, then whoever can maintain being a success can also become a success.

There are many people who tasted success but are numbered among failures today. There are many people who were once rich but very poor today. There are also many people who were the bests in their fields at a time, but have been displaced and rendered irrelevant. The realisation of this truth speaks very eloquently on the fact that everyone who achieves success may not be able to remain a success. The implication of this is that the failure of some successful people is only a matter of time. Some successful people are ignorant of this truth.

Success, like power, could be transient. Like a liquid, success could evaporate with time. This is why there are many people who are celebrated today but who will not be celebrated in the future. Not everyone who achieves success will die a success. By the very nature of some success, they are transient. For instance, being the best athlete of the year is a success that lasts for a year, except it is renewed. However, there are some successes that can be sustained for the rest of one’s life, if it is properly managed. An example of such is marital success.

The road to success is filled with the thorns of failures, mistakes, disappointments and setbacks, though they are usually very helpful to people in acquiring the expertise for managing success later. You will easily admit the truth in this claim if you observe the histories of most people who became rich suddenly (e.g. through lottery, inheritance, etc.). They usually go back to where they started after a while because they are unable to manage their fortunes. They cannot sustain their success because it has a very weak foundation.

Success is a challenge. It could be the beginning of failure, if it is not properly managed. Experience lends credence to the fact that it is much easier to become a success than to manage success. This is why many people are usually unable to sustain their success. The beginning of the failure of many successful people is often the conviction that it could not have been, and cannot be, otherwise. Many people forget that success is a challenge. This is why they are easily carried away by their accomplishments during their days of glory.

Success has a power of its own, a power that affects the victim’s sense of reasoning, most times, in very negative ways. Many people cannot sustain their success because they cannot manage it. They allow their achievements to control them rather than controlling their achievements. Most people do not remain the same after becoming successful, and the change is usually not for the better. This is a challenge of success. Many people easily acquire failure catalysts (arrogance, extravagance, rudeness, etc) after becoming successful.

One success can be the foundation of another success, as success begets success. But this is possible only if the successful person is able to manage his success. There are also people, though a few, who remain successful after getting to the top. Such people keep getting better and more successful as days grow older. Anyone who has once tasted failure will never love to be identified with it again if he ever becomes a success. In a similar vein, anyone who has once tasted hardship will never want to be identified with poverty, if he ever becomes rich.

But this is a condition that can be sustained only if the success is able to resist the negative effects of the pride of success. Most unfortunately, most successful people are usually unable to achieve this. This is also why their success stories usually end as once upon a time. Success is a challenge. It is up to you to determine whether you will achieve it. Even when it becomes a reality in your life, it is also up to you to determine you will sustain or lose it. These will be determined by your attitudes to life.

Books On Being Successful

Everyone wants to be successful. In some way, form or fashion there’s a need to succeed. There are scores of books on being successful that’s been printed over the years. I’d like to point you to some of my favorites.

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

As an acquaintance of mine pointed out, everyone’s idea of success is different and on different levels. There is monetary success, making millions of dollars, which seems to be the focus in today’s world. There is career success as in getting a higher position, life success like getting married and having children and self success as in being at peace with yourself. All of these are a level of success. All of these take a certain amount of personal change. That’s where my first book recommendation steps in. Steven R. Covey’s book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People is also known as powerful lessons in personal change.

The 7 Habits

Covey gives us a step by step pathway of living with fairness, integrity and dignity. The 7 habits are as follows:

Be proactive

Begin with the end in mind

Put first things first

Think win-win

Seek first to understand, then to be understood

Synergize

Sharpen the saw

This is just a short overview. The complete book will keep you turning pages and is very comprehensive. This book is a great book to start with if you’re looking for success on any level.

“I am reading it with profit… it is most thoughtful and enlightening.”

Norman Vincent Peale

Springboard

C. Richard Shell’s Springboard is the second book I’m sharing with you. In this book he guides you in your personal search for success. He answers the two questions, “What for me, is success?” and “How will I achieve it?” The book is divided into two parts, each answering each question. Shell offers various exercises throughout the book which would be of great benefit if sincerely worked on, namely the “Six Lives Exercise”. This exercise helps the readers to assess their own view of success. The book focuses on the main element of your success; you. Rather than following your passion or following the money, he has you search for your own unique combination of skills and passions along with other career opportunities. Melding this all together, Shell calls it the “sweet spot”. Taking time to assess what success is to you is critical to you having a happy and meaningful life. Springboard will help you find this.

“Regardless of whether you are just about to finish college or at the threshold of considering a career change, Springboard is written to help you discover what gives your life the greatest meaning—so you can set your own path and define success on your own terms.”

Fast Company

The Success Principles

Aw, Jack Canfield. Well known for his Chicken Soup for the Soul series (which is also a great read for the success minded individual), he gives us another winner with The Success Principles. One of my favorite books, he touts this one as how to get from where you are to where you want to be. Prepare to transform yourself for success. Canfield takes you all the way from the beginning by teaching you to build confidence and to live with passion. Once you accomplish the basics, he takes you through the inner work needed to transform yourself. Then comes the success team you build to catapult your success. And of course, with success, you’ll need financial awareness along with the principles to help maximize your gains. My favorite part of this book is where Canfield spells out the 64 principles used by successful men and women throughout history. This book will truly show you how to start living the principles of success today.

“Canfield’s principles are simple, but the results you will achieve will be extraordinary.”

The Motivations of Success

There are many tools for achieving success, though they play different roles in the pursuit of success. One of the tools is motivation. Motivation is a very powerful tool in accomplishing a set goal. It is a precondition for achieving success. This is why every achievement is preceded by motivation. As a matter of fact, there can be no success in the absence of motivation. But what is motivation? What is the meaning of motivation?

Motivation can be defined as the enthusiasm for success. It is the stimulus to the pursuit of success. It is also the drive force for success within an individual. If you are not motivated you will lack motivation. The more motivated you are, all things being equal, the more likely you will succeed, for as long as you take actions. This is why it is very difficult, if not impossible, to accomplish any set in the absence of motivation.

The implication of this is that you cannot succeed in the absence of motivation since success is not accidental. Just as goal-setting precedes success, motivation precedes goal-setting. Hence, just as success cannot be achieved without goal-setting, goals cannot be set without motivation. The consequence of this is that success cannot be achieved without motivation. This is why motivation is a precondition for achieving success.

The term, motivation, has assumed a pride of place in scholarship in contemporary times, especially in management studies. Managers at all levels are becoming increasingly aware of the need to assist their employees to become more productive through motivation. Managers have realised that their organisations have very high probability of enjoying the optimum productivities of their employees if they are adequately motivated.

Motivation usually comes from within, though it can also be induced externally. However, since you are the best beneficiary of your success and the worst victim of your failure, you should not expect to be motivated by others before you strive for success. Success belongs to the self-motivated. If you expect to be motivated from external sources before you take the right steps in life, you may never succeed.

There are two basic motivations of success. They are the fear of failure and the pleasure of success. The shame, disgrace, embarrassment, dishonour, humiliation, pain and sadness of failure and the joy, pleasure, delight, bliss, ecstasy and happiness of success are the incentives for greater commitment in the pursuit of success. They are also the enthusiasms, incentives, inspirations and stimulations for the pursuit of success.

People who are afraid of failure always do everything within their strength to ensure that they escape it. This could be the benefit of fear. This shows that fear is not always negative, as many think. Observing the pleasure and happiness of success in the lives of successful people can also kindle the fire of passion for success. This is why ‘interacting with’ or observing and studying the lives of successful people could be very profitable.

2 Different Ways to Look at What A Successful Person Is

What comes to your mind when you think of the word success? Do you imagine living in a mansion style home and being a millionaire? Society’s definition of success compared to what success really is differs greatly. The concept of success is relative to each person. What may mean success to one person may not be considered a success to another person. This article will look at and analyze both parts.

1. Success according to society

Society defines success as when someone achieves a huge reward in cash such as when someone wins the lottery. Usually when we hear of the word success, that word is associated with financial success. Or society will judge someone to be a success when they get married, start a family of their own, live in a nice home in a nice or affluent neighborhood, or if they secure a high paying job position at a company. Society views success through achieving material things. The success that a person achieves when getting that nice home could be wiped away if a tornado or other natural disaster strikes. The high paying position that a person attains at a company could be gone if the company goes bankrupt. The point is that these kinds of things don’t last. The success that you achieve through things such as this are temporary and they won’t necessarily fulfill all of your desires and make you happy. Money, a nice house and a high paying job are all nice things to have to a certain point. But after that, they lose their value because they are material things. That stated, money is important to sustain us because we all need to have food, clothing, and shelter. These are the basic needs to survive in the world.

Material things will come and go in life. And let’s say that your health starts to fail. If that happens, there is no way that the money you have can save you because you will die. After your death, you can’t take this money or those material goods with you. They are left behind in this world for someone else to take them.

Having wealth is a great thing in some ways. But if it is used in an improper way, wealth can lead someone to commit violence or other kinds of crime. We hear so many stories of famous celebrities here in America that have lots of wealth, large homes and a great movie career, yet they are miserable. Do not let society’s definition of success ruin your self-esteem. Success should mean only what you want it to mean. This is your life to live and no one else can live your life. It is hard to not be influenced by society’s definition of success and not get carried away by it. The way that society views success is actually a very superficial way of looking at this term. Just because someone is financially successful does not mean that they are truly a success. They may have access to incredible amounts of wealth but their relationships with other people may not be very productive.

That is not true wealth. I am not saying that having money isn’t a part of wealth because it is. And many of us would like to be wealthy one day. But if the only things that you are after in life are money, a nice house, or a car, then you will base your self-worth on these things. And if you lose one or all of these things then you will not consider yourself a success anymore. Your sense of who you are will be tied to these material things and you will continue to pursue these material things in order to feel fulfilled.

2. Another Interesting Way To Look At Success

The other side of the issue of what success really should be considered is broader and different compared to the way society views success.

If you are still alive, breathing, and in good health, you are a success. If you got a high school diploma, you are a success. If you got one or more college degrees, you are a success. If you were able to hold a job successfully and perform all your duties then you are a success. Do you see how this concept works? Success should mean something different to everyone. Every person is different and they should be given the chance to view success how they want to view it. If you are able to support yourself financially on $15 per hour, then should you not be considered a success? Of course you should be considered a success even if you earn a lower salary than your friends do. If you earn a lower salary and you are happier than someone who earns millions of dollars but they are unhappy, guess which person would be happier? You would be happier than the other person because you are living a life of better quality than the rich person that is unhappy.

Surveys every year indicate that people in countries such as Mexico and Venezuela are happier in general than the average American, British or German. It seems to me that the less you have, you tend to appreciate what you already have much more. And it is part of human nature that the more we have, the more that we want because many people feel that what they have is not enough. I am actually not like many people because I already appreciate what I have and although there are certain things that I desire, I won’t complain.

After all, what good is the large amount of money, a big home and two cars going to do for you if for example you have a disease such as cancer? The money or the home or the cars won’t save your health in that situation. Success should not be limited to having large amounts of wealth, two cars and a nice big home for you and your family to live in. You should define success how you wish to define it. You are more successful than you think you are if you look at your situation really closely. You will have lots of things to be grateful for even if you are not living the life of a celebrity. Dr. John Demartini, one of the speakers in the DVD movie The Secret said something that should be an inspiration to all of us.

“Gratitude is the key that opens the door to the human heart.”

You have open up your heart by being grateful for what you have. It is said that the more you are grateful for what you have now, the more that you will get in the future. Open up your heart to gratitude and you will see just how your life will be changed for the better. I have been practicing this technique for several years and see just how much more amazing and awesome my life has become.

Do not be carried away by society’s definition of success. If there is one thing that I would like you to remember from this article it is that you should define success the way that you want to define it. It doesn’t matter if the media views success in another way. That definition of success is really superficial in nature. If you consider yourself to be a success then that is what you are and what you will become as you keep viewing yourself as a success. Remember that you sense of self and who you really are isn’t based on the amount of material things that you have. You are a human being that has the potential and ability to think and reason. Start seeing yourself as a success and over time you will become a success. How much you see yourself as a success depends on what success means to you.

Success is in your future! The concept of success is different according to society but that should not stop you from seeing yourself as a success. This article is a basic way to address the concept of success.

7 Basic Truths to Know About Success

There is no one who does not like to be successful in this world. It is always the desire of everyone to be counted among the list of successful people in their society.

There is a saying that “success has many friends”. Success is friend to all. It is known to everyone. But not everybody wants to identify with certain truths about success.

To be successful and wealthy is not a rocket science, but what you need know is that there are some basic truths that must guide your pursuit of success.

Given below are 7 basic truths to know about success and successful people.

1. Success does not have all the answers.

That a man is successful does not mean he has all the answers to the issues around him. Most successful people depend on their aides and assistants for solution to most problems around them.

The reason why many successful people surround themselves with teams of brilliant people is because they have accepted the fact that they do not know it all.

Many times people stumble at success in the form of trial and error. They are not afraid to learn from others, especially their subordinates when they failed in their experiments.

2. Success is prone to changes

The only constant thing in life is change. Successful people are given to change whenever the need arises. They are flexible and easily adapt to new ideas and technology that will enhance the sustainability and profitability of their businesses.

Following the same pattern over and over again without getting desired results is a sign of rigidity and dogmatism. A successful man is one that is prone to effective changes that will rub on the overall well being of his business.

3. There is nothing like overnight success

There is a saying that “in politics nothing happens by accident it must have been planned that way”. In the same way, there is no sudden or overnight success. Success forms after a time when necessary works have been done.

Every success requires some input in hard work and diligence. Success always has its story of ups and down to tell.

You can get reward and recognition overnight but the effort that resulted in the success is a well thought out labour that lasted a period of time.

4. You need to make sacrifices in order to be successful

There is always a price to pay for success. It does not come cheap but with a price tag. People who want to achieve success must be ready to sacrifice time, energy, and resources.

Know that you must be willing to sacrifice something for every success initiative you conceive.

5. Success will not make all your problems go away

The more successful you become the more problems you will have. To be successful you must be a problem solver, and to be more successful you must look for bigger problems to solve.

The inventors of television, telephone, aero plane, internet, computer, and other inventions all spend time to solve different problems. Successful people are those who solve the problems of others.

Success attracts more problems into the life of the successful!

6. Success do not eradicate loneliness

The rich and the poor are two parallel lines that will never meet. The poor will always see the rich as the source of their woes and calamity, and this may lead to hostility to the rich.

Being successful in the society always attract hatred from those who feels insecure with your success.

7. Success do not make anyone happy

It’s all vanity at the end of the day as it cannot make anyone happy. The happiness that comes with success is temporal and cannot last. Success does not guarantee happiness.

Money can buy physical things but may not be able to purchase things emotional such as happiness.

It is however imperative to know that the happiness of a successful man is not a function of his success but that of his ability to be grateful at whatever life brings his way be it good or bad.